Category: Self Awareness

5 Types of Imposter Syndrome

7/20/2020

In the July podcast, “Say Good-bye to Imposter Syndrome” I talked briefly about the 5 types of Imposter Syndrome. As promised, here is a more in-depth description of each of the 5 types.
Below you will find a description of each as well as a few questions you can ask yourself to help determine if maybe it’s your type.

The Perfectionist: Perfectionists set excessively high goals for themselves, and when they fail to reach a goal, they experience major self-doubt and worry about measuring up. Any small mistake will make them question their own competence.

Have you ever been accused of being a micromanager?
When you miss the (insanely high) mark on something, do you accuse yourself of “not being cut out” for your job and ruminate on it for days?
Do you feel like your work must be 100% perfect, 100% of the time?

The Expert: They measure their competence based on “what” and “how much” they know or can do. They often feel they need to know every piece of information before they start a project and constantly look for new certifications or training to improve their skills. They may hesitate to ask a question in class or speak up in a meeting at work because they’re afraid of looking stupid if they don’t already know the answer.

Do you shy away from applying to job postings unless you meet every single educational requirement?
Are you constantly seeking out pieces of training or certifications because you think you need to improve your skills in order to succeed?
Even if you’ve been in your role for some time, can you relate to feeling like you still don’t know “enough?”

The Natural Genius: They natural genius believes they need to be a natural “genius.” Judging their competence on ease and speed as opposed to their efforts. If they take a long time to master something, they feel shame. They are used to skills coming easily, and when they have to put in the effort, their brain tells them that’s proof they’re an impostor.

Do you dislike the idea of having a mentor, because you can handle things on your own?
When you’re faced with a setback, does your confidence tumble because not performing well provokes a feeling of shame?
Do you often avoid challenges because it’s so uncomfortable to try something you’re not great at?

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8 Ways to Increase Your Self-Awareness

7/19/2020

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One of the major obstacles to maximizing your success and happiness is a lack of self-awareness. You know your friends’ flaws better than they do. It’s human nature to not have an accurate view of yourself. It is not possible to 100% aware of yourself, because we all have blind spots.

Sometimes we’d rather stick our heads in the sand and remain oblivious to our shortcomings. We’d prefer to believe that we’re unlucky rather than taking the wrong approach.

This presents a huge challenge, because if you can’t see yourself and your behaviors accurately, how can you grow and evolve optimally?

If you’re brave enough to develop a keen sense of self-awareness, you’ll be more likely to have a successful and rewarding life.

Try these techniques to learn more about yourself:

List your values. Taking an hour to identify and prioritize your values will tell you a lot about yourself. You’re bound to find a few surprises if you take the time to do this exercise.
Write down your goals. Defining what you’d like to have, do, and experience in your lifetime is also very revealing. Most of us are too busy surviving from one day to the next to consider our goals. Make time to determine the type of life you want to experience, and you’ll become more self-aware.
Keep a journal. There are entire books written about journaling. Read one of them and develop your own journaling process. Writing is different from the incessant chatter happening between your ears all day long. Self-awareness is only a notebook and a pen away.
Have a heart-to-heart with a close friend. Your friends and family know more about you than you know about yourself. They can see your flaws and strengths quite clearly. Be brave and ask them to tell you about yourself.
Meditate. If you want to understand your mind, meditate. You’ll be shocked by what you find. Meditation is great for your physical health, emotional health, and self-awareness. Thirty minutes a day will reveal a lot about you.
Use your imagination. Imagine you’re a fly on the wall and visualize how you interact with others. Remember both stressful and happy experiences. How do you think your coworkers, friends, family, neighbors, and others view you? How do you come across? How do you think a stranger in the store views you?
Take personality tests. There are many personality and aptitude tests available online, many of them for free. Take these tests and see what they have to say about you. Before dismissing anything that seems way off base, really think about it. Then, ask a close friend if they think the assessment is accurate.
Identify the traits in others that bother you. What do you dislike about others? What does this say about you? Try to be objective and see if you have these same traits. We are often turned off by people that exhibit characteristics we don’t like in ourselves.

How self-aware are you? Do you know how others view you? Do you understand your flaws? What are your greatest strengths? In what type of environment do you thrive? What are your values? What are your goals? How did you contribute to the failure of your past relationships?
If you can’t answer these questions quickly and easily, developing greater self-awareness will benefit you. Until you understand yourself well, your life will appear to be determined by forces beyond your control.

Become more self-aware and regain mastery over your life!

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5 Types of Imposter Syndrome

8 Ways to Increase Your Self-Awareness

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